The Power of Motherhood, Pain and Entrepreneurship

One woman's story of tragedy, abuse, miracles, survival and success

Published Date: Aug 9, 2017 | Blog Category: eWomenNetwork

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Phyllis Smith

She calls herself a storyteller, strategist and student of pain. Elayna Fernandez was raised in poverty in a shack in the Dominican Republic. She was beaten every day of her young life. Today she is transforming mothers around the world through her coaching, speaking, award-winning blog and numerous appearances in the media. Watch the Member Spotlight Podcast and be shocked, amazed and inspired.

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5 Reality Checks for Running a Profitable Business

by Elayna Fernandez

Despite Elayna's tragic upbringing, she now runs a successful business called The Positive Mom and is a highly sought after speaker. Here is a sample of one of her articles from her award-winning blog.

I sometimes shake my head in disbelief. I’ve been a marketer for almost two decades, a mom entrepreneur for twelve years, and a strategy coach for mompreneurs for almost a decade and I always get asked the wrong questions. The issue at hand is not annoyance, but rather concern, because I know that the questions we ask ourselves and others often determine the quality of our lives.

Many aspiring mompreneurs approach me, congratulate me for my accolades, fun travel, and media exposure. “I would love to do what you do,” they often say, and want to know how to “get” the same results. It’s really rare – and quite refreshing when someone approaches me to find out about tips, tools, and resources for running a profitable business.

Reality Check #1 - Are you the CEO or COE?

CEO: Chief Executive Officer. Yes, you know what it stands for, but does it fit your job description? Do you even have a job description? Understanding your role as CEO of your business will change how you see yourself, how you carry yourself, and the culture you create around your business.

If you haven’t gotten clear as to what your ideal business looks like, what your role is as both the visionary CEO and practitioner of your business, and don’t have your business plan on paper, it is very likely that you are the COE – the Chief Of Everything! You don’t make the Executive decision, you make EVERY decision.

You’re overwhelmed, consumed, exhausted, because you wear too many hats as a mom as it is, and then you decided to take on entrepreneurship and follow the same pattern.

ACTION STEP #1: Write a business plan, write up your role, and decide what it means to be the leader of your own business, even if you’re only leading yourself – for now.

Reality Check #2 - Do you have a team?

If you’re in the beginning stages, you may be thinking: “I can’t afford a team!” and while that may be your truth, I’m going to dare challenge it. I always share how I started my business investing 10 minutes a day and $10 a month, and obviously, that didn’t allow for other people on payroll. However, as I started increasing my time investment, I had two toddlers I had to partner with in order to make this happen. Their role consisted of “being quiet when Mami is on a business phone call,” or “play while Mami does her work.” That was crucial for me to get started.

Do you have an organizational chart for your business? It will be a great visual so you can see where your name shows up. It can motivate you to fire yourself from some of the positions that are not in alignment with your passion. I fired myself as cleaning lady of my home and as receptionist of my business as soon as I could. LOL! What are some of the activities that you dread, some titles you can’t wait to drop? You’re the janitor, salesperson, marketer, accountant, social media manager, VA, appointment-setter, customer service representative, proofreader, PR rep, and any other numerous activities of your business that revolve around you.

ACTION STEP #2: Identify one area of your business in which you need support, define whose support you need and have the conversation!

Reality Check #3 - Do you have accountability?

When you are a solopreneur, it’s easy to get the “bright, glittery, and shiny object syndrome,” and head into a downward spiral of distraction, procrastination and inaction. Many mompreneurs I am coaching contacted me because they felt like a failure: they were exhausted from doing so much and yet felt like they had nothing to show for it other than raccoon eyes and defeat.

Having the right advisers to give you feedback, to help you work through your challenges, to share wisdom, to enlighten you with a little perspective is a precious resource to you. Have you thought about having an advisory board for your business to keep you on track? You’d want to include members of diverse backgrounds, perspectives, and expertise. Many small businesses benefit from having a financial adviser, a lawyer, a banker, a CPA, a sales professional, or a creative person sit on their board.

Besides counsel, you need accountability to be successful in any field. A coach doesn’t tell you what to do. They guide and mentor you, and help you see what you can’t see when you need to see it. Your coach can keep you accountable and hold each of your actions accountable for producing a result.

ACTION STEP #3: Create your advisory board and hire a strategy coach! Make sure you’re not going for the “naked-man-offering-you-his-shirt.” Your coach MUST have massive results in the area you’re hiring her (or him) to help you with!

Reality Check #4 - Do you have SYSTEMS?

I have an acronym for SYSTEM: Save Your Sanity Time Energy and Money. If you don’t want to feel like you’re losing your head, like you can’t possibly do everything on your to-do list, and you are tired of being burnt out and broke, systems are your soulmate.

I’ve been teaching a life and work balance class for moms for several years, and the biggest issue is usually that, as moms, we confuse activity with accomplishment. And as mompreneurs, we confuse busyness with business, which is exhausting and alienating.

It’s not about how many hours you work, how much you hustle, or how long your to-do list is. It’s about doing the right things at the right time, and managing your boundaries, because you’ll need to say NO to the wrong things or the right things at the wrong time – you feel me?

When you have processes, policies, and procedures in place, you will be required to calendar events, block time, automate, delegate, and document EVERYTHING! You will be more productive, profitable, and purposeful. You’ll be focusing on your worth, and as added bonus, there won’t be time for the anxiety and pressure of people pleasing!

ACTION STEP #4: Make a list of activities you can standardize, software you can use to automate tasks, forms you can create and set your work hours!

Reality Check #5 - Are you REALLY Monetizing?

Many people believe that monetizing your business is merely the activity of making money. I have seen and heard people talk about when and how they monetize and yet they don’t have a positive cash flow.

Monetizing your passion means that you are being fully covered and supported by your income, and that you can see sustainable growth. If you are not at this stage yet, it’s the only business goal you must focus on; fancy red carpet events and dream trips will come later!

When you manage your finances, you can enjoy the clarity of where you are and where you are going. Start getting real by answering these questions with brutal honesty:

Do you have at least one consistent, predictable and steady revenue stream?
Do you know how each income dollar is divided up in your business?
Do you know how much it costs to run your business (your exact expenses) on a month-to-month basis?
Do you have an emergency fund for your business?
Do you keep your business and personal expenses separate, and mark those expenses that are tax-deductible?
Do you have a clearly stated fee and an easy way to get paid?
Do you have a budget for your business?
Do you have business debt? Do you know exactly how much you owe?
Do you get a paycheck from your business every month?
Do you regularly invest a percentage of your profits back into your business?
Do you have an exit strategy, life insurance, a retirement plan from your business?

It all comes down to whether you are able to generate financial reports on the spot (balance sheet, income statement, a statement of cash flow) without having to spend hours going through your (personal) bank statement and looking for the few receipts you kept in old drawers and shoe boxes. YIKES!

Managing your cash flow is paramount to business success because you must know your revenue streams, your expenses, and your reserves.

ACTION STEP #5: One resource you can use is the QuickBooks Resource Center for small business owners and the self-employed, where mompreneurs can find free resources for starting, running, and growing your business, including in-depth guides, free tools, helpful articles and videos that break it all down for you.

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Phyllis Smith
Content Manager, eWomenNetwork
Program Director and Show Host, eWN Podcast Network

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